MARRIAGE TIPS
- heiritagecb
- Feb 18, 2021
- 3 min read
In this edition of #marriagetoolkit, let us share some tips that you need which can improve your marriage and ensure that you are moving on in line with God's will.
Ephesians 4:3 "Be eager and strive earnestly to guard and keep the harmony and oneness of the Spirit in the binding power of peace."
It is clear from the Scripture above that you have a responsibility which NO ONE can do on your behalf. It is your direct mandate from God that you strive, make effort, do all you can to foster peace in your home. A lot of times, I see people who are unwilling to make sacrifices under the guise of having rights. Well, the standard of the Word of God remains unshaken and God will not adjust His standards just to suit an individual. The standard that all believers operate under is the same one that was used for the Apostles and all believers of old- it will not change.
God expects you to make efforts in ensuring peace and unity in your home. Be alert to changing times and identify what could be the matter, then communicate to fix it.
The following three tips would also come in handy:
1. Destroy every record of wrongdoings that you have kept for several years. Some women think it is a great trait to write down the wrongdoings of their spouse so that they can keep mentioning all the things he did against them. As a believer, you must be a great forgiver, letting things go as often as they happen. Jesus said, "forgive seventy times seven times a day". Let it go! Don't keep the records of your spouse's wrongdoing...be open to giving mercy and you shall obtain mercy too😊. God is love and if you claim that His love is inside you, one way to demonstrate it is by being deliberate about forgiving and forgetting. Don't keep remarking on something they did and have previously apologized for- events have overtaken that. Let go and Let God!
2. Don't abuse your children. The fact that you try to hide your children in their rooms so that you can have room to vent, shout at or insult your spouse DOES NOT protect them from the impact of that action. Every time you do that, you rob your children of their peace of mind and that in itself is an abuse. Under the law of most countries, child abuse is a punishable offence how much more under God. The risk in having your children witness some of those down times is that they model what they see. Someday in the future, they begin to display some of the traits that they have learnt from their parents whereas the mandate of God for every couple is to raise GODLY CHILDREN. An abused child would struggle to be godly because of the scarred state of their mind.
3. Enjoy Your Spouse's uniqueness. It is alarming to see couples competing with one another. The truth is that each person, married or not is unique before God and has been packaged with some qualities. These qualities are all yours for keeps, all yours to enjoy...they were put in there to fit your own uniqueness. Your spouse is NOT responsible for your challenges as you may think, rather, their presence is a plus for you. Enjoy their speciality, it was put there to complement your own uniqueness. Ecclesiastes 4:9: "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?" If your spouse is exactly the same as you are, then one cannot help the other.
Colossians 3:14: "And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."
Today is your day of salvation. Repent, if you are culpable. God loves you😍!
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